In 2016 I set out with a goal to read at least 1 book a month and I finished with waaaay more than that. 2017 my goal is to read at least 2 books a month and to host a monthly book club. I have completed 11 books so far this year. Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton is the latest book I have completed. I have been so moved by this book that after writing a quick review in my goodreads account I feel the need to expand on the review and put it into a blog post. By the way if you don’t have a goodreads account yet I highly recommend getting one. It’s an excellent place to keep track of the books you’ve read and books you would like to read. Click here to follow me on goodreads.
Last year a friend of mine had posted about how she was reading Love Warrior. I tend to enjoy most of the books this friend has recommended so I looked into it. There was a long wait list for Love Warrior and so I checked out Melton’s first book Carry On, Warrior. While I enjoyed her first book it did not move me in the ways that this book has. I do recommend reading Carry On, Warrior but I feel like it’s not necessary to read the books in chronological order. Both memoirs stand alone well.
Just when Glennon Doyle Melton was beginning to feel she had it all figured out—three happy children, a doting spouse, and a writing career so successful that her first book catapulted to the top of the New York Times bestseller list—her husband revealed his infidelity and she was forced to realize that nothing was as it seemed. A recovering alcoholic and bulimic, Glennon was familiar with rock bottom. In the midst of crisis, she knew to hold on to what she discovered in recovery: that her deepest pain has always held within it an invitation to a richer life. Love Warrior is the story of one marriage, but it is also the story of the healing that is possible for any of us when we refuse to settle for good enough and begin to face pain and love head-on. This astonishing memoir reveals how internalizing our culture’s standards of masculinity and femininity can make it impossible for men and women to ever really know one another—and it captures the beauty that unfolds when one couple commits to unlearning everything they’ve been taught so that they can finally, after thirteen years of marriage, fall in love.
Love Warrior is a gorgeous and inspiring account of how we are born to be warriors: strong, powerful, and brave; able to confront the pain and claim the love that exists for us all. This chronicle of a beautiful, brutal journey speaks to anyone who yearns for deeper, truer relationships and a more abundant, authentic life.
Let me expand on that by saying that I recommend this book to all women. I truly feel like all women can find something to relate to among the pages of this memoir. With out giving too much away I just want to say that this book truly takes you on a journey and it caused me to reflect on my life and relationships.
Warrior flow is one of my favorite yoga sequences. In it I feel powerful and ready to take on the world. It challenges me but strengthens me in the challenge. That’s life as well – strength in the challenge. Overcoming, learning, etc…today is Thursday and I used to practice Thankful Thursday on a regular basis as a form of resiliency training. Dare I say today that I am thankful for my experience with depression?! I am. I am thankful for struggle. I am thankful for the challenges and the newfound strength they have given me. With that let me make it clear to you that I believe struggle is relative to the individual. It bothers me when people take my struggle and then throw back at me “it could be worse” or “oh but I [insert one downer statement here]” when someone does that to me or I hear about it being done to someone else I feel like that persons feelings are being discounted and that’s not right. Everyone is allowed to feel the way they feel and to discount someone’s feelings and struggle just because you think you have it worse or better or whatever the case may be robs that person of an experience, of a journey that she may need to go and grow through.
I spent all of 2016 in regular counseling. I was in an extremely dark place for a long time. I cannot take medications because of how my body processes medications; it does more damage than good for me. That is my experience. I am sharing with you not to be a one upper or a one downer but to hopefully help show you that there is a warrior in us all. That in the darkness there is light. That sometimes things just suck and the challenges are so tough we need professional help out of them and that’s OK! Don’t envy me don’t be like me, be the you-est you possible, you’re the only one who can do that.
This blog is called Rambling Mom for a reason, I tend to ramble on. I tend to write in stream of consciousness and I often wish that I could just place a recorder of sorts in my head to properly get all my thoughts out. Alas that hasn’t been invented yet. My brain processes my experiences by writing about them with a pen and paper and then processes them again in a different way by typing and then processes them again a different way by talking about them. That’s something I learned in therapy last year; that our brains process in various ways.
Back to my reflection of the book Love Warrior…
I’m often told that people look to my marriage with Troy as a #relationshipgoal. I always think ugh, why?! Trust me, you don’t want my marriage. I’m not saying that my marriage is awful or anything but I am saying that my marriage isn’t exactly what you think it is. My marriage struggles. My marriage is a ton of time spent apart because of the paths we have chosen in life. My marriage is missed birthdays and holidays and other special occasions. My marriage is like the oceans tide where we struggle with the currents and the ups and downs. There is peace in it though. I truly know there is no one else in the world that I would rather be with. It’s our relationship and no one else. That’s what I encourage you to be in your relationship and in your life…you…you, you, you, your experience. Your challenges make you the warrior that you are.
The quote below is a gentle reminder for myself and to you as well…
…and remember YOU ARE A WARRIOR!